♪ I hate pink hearts with glitter and Valentine’s dinner
I think cupid is stupid and violets are purple not blue
I hate love songs Yeah, I really do. ♫
These lyrics from Kelsea Ballerini’s newest single resonate with me. The theme of the song is about the use of mushy and preposterous phrasing about love, but the singer loves the partner she has found and is willing to overlook her former antipathy. I don’t care for all the silly and mushy phrasing, but I don’t have the partner that makes me willing to set those feelings aside.
Today is my least favorite day of the year. Every year of my adult life I have despised and dreaded this holiday. There’s several other days to celebrate in February. So many of my mother’s family has February birthdays and even mine is only a week and a half after Valentine’s Day. There’s at least some redemption because my twin first cousins-once removed celebrate their birthday on Valentine’s Day.
I will admit the only Valentine’s Day that I was in a relationship was uneventful and now I see it as a novelty that for once I had a reason to celebrate. Now, I’m back to at best ignoring the day and at worst seething about the day.
More often than not my negative default mode is to refer to today as Single Awareness Day (SAD) or Anti-Valentine’s Day (Anti-V-D Day). Yes, I know I sound like a misanthrope and that I hate romance, it’s quite the contrary—a hopeless romantic. If I am crushing on someone or somehow in a romantic relationship I fall hard. So, I try to show my affection for that person. I take issue with Valentine’s Day as being one day out of 365 that people find reason to be romantic. Why do couples only gush over each other on Valentine’s Day and probably their Anniversary. Personally, you should show your partner affection on August 19th because you want them to realize you love them. Why not August 19th, March 6th, or November 29th or any of the other 365 days? Singling one day out puts too much undue pressure on each party.
Yes, I know much of my feelings and this post are sour grapes given my current romantic situation but that’s the attitude I am choosing and am not likely to be swayed.
Also, if you really want to be faithful to the patron saint of this day, anything you do has very little to do with romance or any other version of love. Medieval author Geoffery Chaucer took some artistic license with the account of St. Valentine and over time that has become the prevailing story we celebrate. Yet, the namesake of the day is believed to be Saint Valentine of Rome. St. Valentine defied the emperor’s orders and ministered to Christians as well as conducted Christian weddings. These ceremonies helped to prevent male believers from serving in the Roman Army since they were newly married and would likely receive a waiver from service. Another facet of this legend is that during his imprisonment St. Valentine healed the blind daughter of the judge in his case. Church officials chose February 14 because this is the day that St. Valentine was martyred for his disobedience to the Empire. I’m guessing that nobody is going to rush out and mimic any of the activities of this worthy Saint.
I know that I won’t be participating in any of the activities the historical St. Valentine did today or the more usual activities everyone else celebrates. I’ll be in lodge with my Brother Masons and probably stop at a Single Awareness Day event at a local pub. It’s also likely I will be my own Valentine and gorge on chocolate and candy which will look something like the clip below:
Do you enjoy Valentine’s Day? What do you have planned for the day?